Remi Koebel: Everybody Else's Girl

Happy to present Remi Koebel’s “Everybody Else’s Girl”. The exhibition starts 13.02.2026 including a guest talk at 7pm. The exhibition will be on view until 06.03.2026.

About “Everybody Else’s Girl”:

American feminist philosopher and gender studies scholar Judith Butler developed a theory questioning the notion that gendered behaviors are innate, arguing that what we perceive as femininity and masculinity are actually learned performances shaped by societal expectations and often violently imposed by normative heterosexuality.

Every morning when I wake up and prepare for my day, I reach for my makeup. This is an ingrained habit, a deep groove I’ve worn in the side of my routine that I struggle to see myself abandoning. My life is full of eccentricities and oddities, and my flamboyant, often extravagant appearance reflects that. I have a great appreciation for the sparkling and beautiful. This is not an innate factor of my identity which I was born with, but a learned instinct. It has made me a subtle infiltrator in the heterosexual cisgender world, a target for violence, and an object of desire. I’ve identified as non-binary since quite a young age, to the great confusion and frustration of almost everyone around me at all times. It’s sort of like hearing a Barbie doll say, “Actually, I’d like to abstain from this whole gender thing - but hey, hand me that pink feather boa!” It’s not exactly straightforward, and it hasn’t even gone over particularly well in queer spaces either. Even fellow trans peers would often misgender me; I spent my teenage years bouncing between eccentric femininity, androgyny, and subpar attempts at mimicking the queer masculinity of my friends and mentors. It’s very painful when nearly everyone in your life politely averts their eyes from the parts of you that make them uncomfortable. I had to come to terms with being the only person in the world who understands me. It’s isolating. I’m always performing my gender, this formless thing inside me that I can’t describe. No words suffice[…].”

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